Recent and not so Recent news
Aug. 9th, 2010 05:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
amh1988I’m not sure how to start this post… it’s been five months since I last made a post (leaving a story two chapters from completion) and so much has happened.
First, for those who only read my journal for stories, I will eventually finish writing Recoil, although that process may not begin until the end of August. For those who know me better (or would like to) I have more to share about the events of the past months.
In the last post I made back in March, I talked about how things were going a little wrong with my older sister and her children and that my mother was coming from Florida to sort things out. Well, just two days before my mother arrived, my grandfather was hospitalised with breathing difficulties. I immediately went to stay with my nan to look after her while grandad was away. After many tests and two very long weeks, it was confirmed that grandad had lung cancer.
My mother and I set about the task of taking care of them both at their home. My little brother and my step-ada came over from the states for a brief visit in early June and enjoyed time with grandad while he was still relatively healthy. My little sister also came over just before them for an extended stay. (She is due to return home on Thursday.)
Many things happened over these intervening months including; many visits from various aunts, uncles and other family; countless visits from doctors and nurses, and the daily tasks of looking after a man who is simply struggling for every breath. I had also started a new job just a week after he first came home the hospital and fought to adjust to some balance myself.
But we managed. Everyone pulled together and we did what we could.
Sadly, at ten minutes passed five yesterday afternoon, grandad passed away. He went peacefully, in his own home, laid in his own bed, and surrounded by his family.
Grandad was the glue that bound this family together and although we will miss him, it was somehow nice to think that last night, he final managed to find the restful slumber that had eluded him over the last couple of months.
For Fredrick Hardy
1934-2010
3 Children
16 Grandchildren
8 Great-grandchildren
And he looked after us all.
It really has been too long since I've posted anything, but I have looked in breifly every now and then, and those few stolen moments wherein I found escape have sustained me. Thank you guys.
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Date: 2010-08-09 05:10 pm (UTC)condolence and we're very sorry for your loss.. but ganbatte ne? God is there for you.. just have faith..
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Date: 2010-08-12 09:25 pm (UTC)I am grateful for all the support I've had from the people around me, both in RL and online.
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Date: 2010-08-09 05:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-08-12 09:31 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-08-09 05:20 pm (UTC)I'm sorry to hear about your grandad. I'm sure that all his life he had a great time of spending it, had a great family, and now he's in a better place, he's happy now.
Once again, my condolences of your grandfather. Just take your time, you don't have to rush back here. *hugs*
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Date: 2010-08-12 09:34 pm (UTC)But you're right; in a sense, it's all over now, and after the funeral next week, things should find some sense of 'normal' again.
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Date: 2010-08-09 06:48 pm (UTC)I'm just glad to see anything from you and to know you are okay seeing as last time you posted it seemed like a pretty dismal situation. I pray for your family during this time and I hope all things have worked out with your sister.
As for the fanfiction, don't worry so much about that. Fandom will always be here so take all the time you need. ^_^ I really suck at condolences so I hope this helps a little? (Look at the Ohno icon! He's rubbing! SMILE AT IT. XD)
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Date: 2010-08-12 09:39 pm (UTC)Grandad was very well loved and the outpouring of support has been amazing, so the family has taking much comfort in that.
Incidentally, I have taken great delight in your comm over the months, you know. Even though I rarely got online and never really had time to sit down to watch a vid or reply to emails, I read every post on arashicrackaday.
Your insanity helped me cope with the craziness of my own situation every time. Thank you.
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Date: 2010-08-13 03:37 am (UTC)OH MAN. Don't tell me stuff like that. It makes me want to cry. I really have no clue how our comm became second next to Arashi for enjoyment to some people. We really aren't that great. XD I'm glad we could encourage you and bring a little rainbow goodness to you during the last few months. You're welcome.
If you'll rub it, does that mean you'll lick it too? HAHAHAHAHAA *inappropriate comments are a go*
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Date: 2010-08-10 11:00 am (UTC)We're all thinking of you.
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Date: 2010-08-12 09:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-08-12 03:53 pm (UTC)I'm sorry for your loss. But as you said, its nice that he had finally found rest. I hope you take care too! Times may still be hard. The fandom is more than willing to give you comfort if needed. And we will be patiently waiting for you to post again!
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Date: 2010-08-12 09:52 pm (UTC)It reminds me that life goes on (as they say) and nothing ever really just stops. You know?
(Except this comment.) ^_^
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Date: 2010-08-19 09:03 am (UTC)I am very sorry for your loss but be sure that I know what you're talking about. I lost my grandad to cancer too. Somehow this illness develops into a mass one. Alone in one year my grandad, my grandma and my father were diagnosed it. My grandma and father managed it though.
Please take care, dear!