Recent and not so Recent news

[amh1988]

I’m not sure how to start this post… it’s been five months since I last made a post (leaving a story two chapters from completion) and so much has happened.

First, for those who only read my journal for stories, I will eventually finish writing Recoil, although that process may not begin until the end of August. For those who know me better (or would like to) I have more to share about the events of the past months. 
  
 
In the last post I made back in March, I talked about how things were going a little wrong with my older sister and her children and that my mother was coming from Florida to sort things out. Well, just two days before my mother arrived, my grandfather was hospitalised with breathing difficulties. I immediately went to stay with my nan to look after her while grandad was away. After many tests and two very long weeks, it was confirmed that grandad had lung cancer.

My mother and I set about the task of taking care of them both at their home. My little brother and my step-ada came over from the states for a brief visit in early June and enjoyed time with grandad while he was still relatively healthy. My little sister also came over just before them for an extended stay. (She is due to return home on Thursday.)

Many things happened over these intervening months including; many visits from various aunts, uncles and other family; countless visits from doctors and nurses, and the daily tasks of looking after a man who is simply struggling for every breath. I had also started a new job just a week after he first came home the hospital and fought to adjust to some balance myself.
But we managed. Everyone pulled together and we did what we could.

Sadly, at ten minutes passed five yesterday afternoon, grandad passed away. He went peacefully, in his own home, laid in his own bed, and surrounded by his family.

Grandad was the glue that bound this family together and although we will miss him, it was somehow nice to think that last night, he final managed to find the restful slumber that had eluded him over the last couple of months.
 
For Fredrick Hardy
1934-2010

3 Children
16 Grandchildren
8 Great-grandchildren
And he looked after us all.

It really has been too long since I've posted anything, but I have looked in breifly every now and then, and those few stolen moments wherein I found escape have sustained me. Thank you guys.

Comments

[jade-lil.livejournal.com]

its been hard and we knew it perfectly. we're still waiting for you and we do hope things go well for you in the future.. you're tough.. I know you are.. we're praying for you and your family.

condolence and we're very sorry for your loss.. but ganbatte ne? God is there for you.. just have faith..

[sushi4ever.livejournal.com]

ahhh.. I am sorry to hear that *hugs hugs*

[loissama.livejournal.com]

I'm so happy to see your post. I was worried because you just went away and never replied back my email. Now I know why you were gone.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandad. I'm sure that all his life he had a great time of spending it, had a great family, and now he's in a better place, he's happy now.

Once again, my condolences of your grandfather. Just take your time, you don't have to rush back here. *hugs*

[all4cyanide.livejournal.com]

1934, huh? Sounds like he lived a full and blessed life. I'm sure he was at peace and felt wholly fulfilled and loved.

I'm just glad to see anything from you and to know you are okay seeing as last time you posted it seemed like a pretty dismal situation. I pray for your family during this time and I hope all things have worked out with your sister.

As for the fanfiction, don't worry so much about that. Fandom will always be here so take all the time you need. ^_^ I really suck at condolences so I hope this helps a little? (Look at the Ohno icon! He's rubbing! SMILE AT IT. XD)

[pebblegosling.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a tough couple of months. *cuddles*
We're all thinking of you.

[trece-13.livejournal.com]

Hi! I used to read your fic, Recoil,(to put it simply, I'm just a random reader) and strangely enough I wanted to read it again today and I was surprised to see that you posted something just two days ago! (And I just had to comment...)

I'm sorry for your loss. But as you said, its nice that he had finally found rest. I hope you take care too! Times may still be hard. The fandom is more than willing to give you comfort if needed. And we will be patiently waiting for you to post again!

[satsumatsu.livejournal.com]

We don't know each other but I read your stories and suddenly you vanished and I was worried!

I am very sorry for your loss but be sure that I know what you're talking about. I lost my grandad to cancer too. Somehow this illness develops into a mass one. Alone in one year my grandad, my grandma and my father were diagnosed it. My grandma and father managed it though.

Please take care, dear!